Category: Let's talk
I go to a rehab center nd I don't like one of their rules. I don't like the fact that clients and employees can't talk outside the center. I have a friend who I like to talk to outside the center and bcause of these rules, I can't talk to her. What does everyone think about this rule??
I admit it sounds odd but I think it's do to a fear of liability.
I dated the night nurse at my rehab center and am not ashamed. yes I wish I would have done it differently but oh well. At the center I went to we had to make our beds everyday. hated that especially when I overslept.
LOL Jess. The rehabb center that I'm talking about is for the visually impaired./
I don't understand. Are you saying that you can't talk to the rehab worker about the rehabilitation work they are doing with you outside the centre, or are you saying you can't talk to your friends who aren't rehabilitating you outside the centre? Do you mean outside the centre as in literally outside the centre, or do you mean when you are not at the centre e.g. at home?
Senior, I mean the second one at home.
That’s funny, but you might ask for their reasoning. If it’s logical, they can easily tell you.
If I were you, I'd just do it, people dont have to know about it! I think if the person's really your friend, and you guys can kind of keep it on the low, as they say, it shouldn't be a problem! I think the reason they do that is because they dont like workers to get too attached, or something, o even what was said in the earlier posts. But yes, that is a hard one, but after you leave the center, you'd be able to talk to this person with no problems. People do it all the time! Anyway, good luck :d
Ashley
I've tried to keep it on the low side but I got busted by the director.
You want to hear something funny, whenn I was at my rehab center I fell madly in love with the night nurse there. We dated for 2 months secretly before I ended my program. Everyone suspected but no one had the proof to get her in trouble. About to months after I left and was living with her I came to the center one night to ring her food and gave her a kiss. It was then she lost her job and honestly they said it was because they new we were dating a long time ago and now had the proof. Crazy rules but what can you do.
I know. It happens here in England too. When I was at my old residential college which I finished about a year and a half ago, I became quite good friends with one staff who worked there. We managed to go shopping fairly early in the morning, probably because most of the other students were in bed. Well whatever else happened during that year, Karen and one of the other students are about the only 2 people I keep in touch with. In fact, I think it's been about 2 years or so since I met Karen and we swapped phone numbers shortly after that so we could talk. Well ... I still speak to her and we still send text messages now, but the rule just sounds stupid. the only reason these places have got is confidentiallity and they don't like the fact that people might just happen to meet up anyway outside the centres.
Lol. I became good friends with a couple of the dorm staffers at the Rehab center I went to. This place had the same rule, but we still managed to socialize but we kept it quiet. One night, a group of us, (2 staff and 2 clients) went out for dinner and a basketball game. I think a few people got suspicious that night, but fortunately no one found out. We had all kinds of tricks to protect the staffers involved. We'd meet at restaurants off campus or if the staff did drive us, we'd go about a block from campus where we could be picked up without being seen. It was so stupid how we had to sneak around, but I certainly didn't want my friends to lose their jobs. I still talk to one of the staffers all the time and its been 2 years since I was there. Just lay low and be more careful from now on.
Man, that kind of shit pisses me off. There's something like that in the Social Work Code of Ethics too. There shouldn't be any rule that dictates who a person can and cannot be friends with or in a relationship with. If it were me, I'd probably tell them to kiss my ass when they tried to shove that rule down my throat. lol
Becky
I honestly don't remember a rule like that at mine. but it's been so long! rofl
I'm still friends with a staffer from about 12 or 13 years ago. lol Go figure.
I've never heard of a rehab center that says you can't talk to its staff outside of official center time. Both in Iowa, and Colorado at the CCB we could do that. Now, there were rules against clients and employees dating. I do understand that. It could very easily complicate things, lead to favoritism, conflict of interest, etc. But not talking or having any kind of friendship? That's unreal. Some of my best learning at the CCB came from hanging out with staff outside of Center hours.
I agree with the posts about the rule being so stupid. I just wanted to curse the director out when he presented me with saying I couldn't call her anymore.